And while I love that people with mental health issues are finally getting more of the understanding that they need, I think a light needs to be shined on the spouses, parents, children, and long-term partners of people with these issues, as well.Īgain, I find myself torn by Quinn's writing. The caretaker is the support system and fuck you if you're not completely thrilled to deal with the aftermath of whatever problems your person is causing. And most people who are involved with someone like that are too busy putting out fires and taking up the slack to get any sort of support for themselves if any even exists. I'm not blaming the person who is sick, but if you've ever lived with someone who deals with it, you know what I'm talking about. However, I did think it was fine to point out how it can completely derail your life to live with someone who has an illness like clinical depression. But I imagine that's how it would have gone down back in the day, especially since they didn't really have therapists for that sort of thing at the time. There was a lot of (what seemed like) blame placed on her for being mopey & suicidal, and there wasn't a lot of care taken to point out that none of this was her particular fault. The way Quinn dealt with Philip's first wife's depression was a tad iffy. But after a few weeks of sex, and a few dramatic moments, he decides YES! I LOVE HER! I think he was supposed to come off as this lovable absent-minded professor, but he just made me kind of sick.Īt first, he seems to have no human feelings. He was obnoxiously thrilled to let Eloise run everything so that he could dig in the dirt and do his experiments. Eloise the Obnoxious Brat and Eloise the Long-Suffering Adult. It's like there were two separate characters. She's willing to take care of all the problems with Philip's kids and estate during the day and be his marathon lover at night. For good reason.īut then at the same time, she acts like this super-proper wife who doesn't want to cause any waves in her marriage. In real life, everyone avoids them like the plague. I don't know about anyone else, but I don't personally find bossy know-it-alls charming. And we're supposed to find that endearing?

She never shuts up and she has an opinion on everything. And all because she suddenly decided she didn't want to be alone? Well, it didn't make my heart go pitty-pat. So, for her to kind of end up getting married off rather quietly to a guy who reallyreallyreally wanted a mother for his children. I was looking forward to Eloise's book because she always seemed so unconventional and spunky.

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